You may accept that your former spouse or co-parent is entitled to a personal life and will start dating again, but you may feel very differently about your children becoming involved in that process. You may not like the idea of your co-parent exposing your children to a revolving array of their short-lived relationships – but what can you do about it?
One possible tool is a morality clause in your parenting plan.
What is a morality clause?
A morality clause is a provision in a parenting plan that addresses how a parent’s romantic relationships may affect the children. Typically, a morality clause restricts each parent’s ability to have romantic partners stay overnight when the children are present or live in the home with the children until they’re married. In some cases, it may also limit when a new partner may be introduced to the children at all.
The purpose of these clauses is not to control a parent’s personal life but to make sure the children are protected from unstable environments (or unstable people).
Are morality clauses enforceable in Florida?
Florida courts generally give each parent significant freedom to make personal decisions during their parenting time. If you are seeking a morality clause, it is important to understand that Florida courts make decisions based on the best interests of the child. A court is unlikely to impose restrictions simply because you disapprove of your co-parent’s dating choices or believe they move into new relationships too quickly.
On the other hand, parents are generally free to agree to such terms on their own. If you want a morality clause in your parenting plan – and your ex is willing to abide by one – the court may be willing to approve it, so long as it isn’t too restrictive.
It’s important to remember, however, that – once agreed upon and made part of the court-ordered parenting plan – a morality clause has weight. If either parent violates it, that could be cause for the other to seek (and obtain) a modification of parenting time.
Focus on what is best for your child
Disagreements about new romantic relationships are common after a divorce or separation. While morality clauses can sometimes provide a way to address legitimate concerns, they are not intended to give one parent control over the other parent’s dating life.
If you are concerned about the people your co-parent is bringing around your children, it may be helpful to speak with a family law attorney about your options. Every situation is different, and the specific facts matter. Ultimately, Florida courts will focus on what arrangement best serves the interests and well-being of your child.
